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Networking is a key skill for jobseekers to master as an important part of their job search campaign. Barry Zweibel, a certified business and personal life coach, has written an informative article to help you improve your networking skills.
Networking is a great way to expand the world you live in. And whether you're talking about formal networking events, continuing education classes, social gatherings or other functions, they're all prime opportunities to meet new people and/or further relations with those you would like to know better. But, in order to do that, you must fight the temptation to just 'hang out' with the people you already know. To accomplish that, you must first set your intentions and then have a workable game plan to implement.
Nothing! And so often it's the case that our busy lives prevent us from spending time with those people. So, when we finally do see them again - no matter what the setting - we naturally gravitate to them. What ultimately happens, though, is that you don't 'catch up' as much as you'd like AND you miss the opportunity to meet some of the other people around you. It becomes a classic lose/lose scenario.
What can you do instead? Say your hellos, chat for a few quick minutes and then make plans to get together at some other time (maybe even later that night) to REALLY catch up. The message is, "Yes, I really want to spend more time with you, but not right now - I want to network a bit, first." If someone said that to you would you begrudge them? My guess is more likely than not, you'd be impressed.
The dictionary defines a stranger as "one who is neither a friend nor an acquaintance." That sounds kind of benign actually. No reference whatsoever to scary monsters or worst-case scenarios! We give such power to strangers - people we don't even know yet.
So if you're someone who doesn't like to network because it involves the wildcard of talking with people you don't already know, consider that somewhere in that sea of strangers is probably a friend waiting to meet you for the very first time. And who couldn't use another friend?! Besides once you talk with someone for a while, they're no longer strangers, so by simply interacting with them, you can systematically eliminate the strangers from any room you're in. You've got power!
First thing is to remember that you DO have the power. Remember that. Really! And here are some easy-to-implement, no-nonsense steps to help you move forward:
Remember, networking is always easier when you're feeling fresh. So don't hold off on 'hanging' with friends until the very end. And lastly, have fun. Enthusiasm is contagious and if you play your cards right, you'll soon be the one that everyone else wants to meet!
About the Author: Barry Zweibel is a certified business and personal life coach and founder of GottaGettaCoach! Incorporated. Phone: 847-291-9735