What can a Confidence
Coach Help YOU Learn?
The Confidence Radial© is a 6-step process
developed to coach you
from the Seemingly Impossible
to the Imminently Doable
(Open
a graphical image of the Radial.)
Step One: Act like you already have the power -
There's a dirty little secret to confidence and that's that most people
have far more confidence than they give themselves credit for having.
Take a few moments and remember the times when your confidence just
naturally shone. Everyone has memories of being surprised by how
confident they appeared in some situation - how confident they actually
were. And in those cases, it wasn't even an act. Ultimately, it will
better serve you to remember that you probably have more confidence than
you think. But if you have to start off by pretending that you have more
confidence than you think, well, that's okay, too. Coach yourself on
this so that you're willing to give it a try.
Step Two: Power your confidence by researching an Important
Question - When we're
emotionally invested in a particular topic, we tend to dig in, learn all
we can, believe in what we know, and speak from the heart. Passion plus
knowledge is a powerful formula for success - and confidence. So ask
yourself: "What is it I would do if I was already confident?"
and "If confidence wasn't even an issue, what Important Question would I dig
and learn more about?" These are the kinds of question a coach would ask you. And
whatever your answer, the coach would probably then say, "Great! Now what
steps would you take to dig in and research exactly that?"
Step Three: Question others on the matter to learn their
points-of-view - Once you've dig in a little and do some basic
research, it will become much more clear to you what it is you (a) do
know; and (b) don't know yet. Allow the "do know" part to nourish
your confidence. Combine that with your natural curiosity and the "don't
know yet" part will soon have you wanting to ask other people what they know about your
Important
Question. So go find out. Get curious and enthusiastic, and inquire.
Don't pretend you already know. Seek knowledge instead. People absolutely
love to share what they know with others. And here's the bonus -
people naturally assume that people who are enthusiastic and curious are
also naturally confident. And if you're even thinking about talking with
them, they're right! So what do you think your coach would ask you here?
Step Four: View who could be part of your Resource Network
- Once you start talking with a people about that Important Question
you're researching, you'll soon realize that some people have better
information to share than others. This is natural because, in part, some
people have more confidence than others when it comes to sharing their
opinions with others. So pick a few whose views you like and make them
your ad hoc Resource Network - a group of 4, 5, or 6 people who you'd feel comfortable
asking for their opinions and insights from time to time on different
things. Consider
brainstorming with them when you're feeling stuck, unsure of a decision,
or when you're just looking for a few new ideas. Fill this Resource Network
(or Confidence Network)
with people of varying backgrounds, interests, and skills. Enjoy
the variety of the perspectives they bring and see the
value-added they bring you.
Step Five: Network other contacts into connections - Contacts are people that you know; Connections are people that
know
you. Help other people you know get to know better you by openly sharing with them
the things that you're learning,
thinking about, laughing at, questioning, etc. - without expectation
of anything in return. Get curious about their interests and help them
open up. Coach them on what you know. If you do, you'll soon notice how easy it is to engage with them -
and be engaged by them. This is the stuff of Lasting Impressions -
and, of course, Lasting Confidence.
Step Six: Connections make it more than an act - Once you realize that your connections enjoy talking with you and are
truly pleased to have you in their lives, you'll naturally feel more
alert, proud, genuine, and confident of who you are and your place in the world
- no matter who you're with.
What does showing up mean to
YOU?
When our self-esteem takes a hit, it's not always easy to restore it back
to its former level. And even if we do, it often only then becomes
apparent that it wasn't all that strong to begin with. So my advice to
you is to go deep inside and decide whether you want to take more
responsibility for how you let others affect you. I like what Woody
Allen said about this: "80% of success is showing up." So what does
showing up mean to you?
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When you own the fact that
you really DO make a difference ... you WILL. |
And that's what CONFIDENCE is all about.
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