Fear 101: A Model
I've been talking to a number of people about fear lately and decided to diagram what a prevailing mental model is for many with respect to fear:
As you see, the inner core represents one's fearlessness ? that is the place where we have no fear. For some this is a very big place; for others it can be fairly small. As they say, individual results may vary.
Surrounding this inner core is a ring of courageousness ? the place where, as Susan Jeffersa would say, we are willing to "feel the fear and do it, anyway."
As with the fearlessness core, the courageousness ring is a very big place for some, and a relatively small place for others. Too, and this is something you've likely already experienced yourselves, the actual size of these two areas will vary greatly depending on circumstance, mood, comfort level, and a variety of other variables.
Surrounding all of that ? and this was the real light bulb realization for me, as it may be for you ? is a veritable Infinity and Beyond ... of fear. Yes, for many people, anything outside of what they're already fearless - or willing to be courageous - about, is a never ending Land of Fear.
Of course, not everyone looks at it this way - although a surprising number of people really do. (And to a certain extent, you might, too, if you're being really honest with yourself.) So perhaps you can appreciate that I mean no disrespect when I say,
Although that may just be the fear talking!
But, when we consider that virtually everything outside of our fearlessness and courageousness zones is in the Land of Fear, it's no wonder why feelings of fear, worry, and doubt can seem so incessant. After all, Infinity and Beyond, by it's very definition, is a pretty big place!
Okay, so this said,the Next Step is to figure out how to re-frame our model so that fear is not so featured as the kingpin of the whole thing.
Stay tuned!
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a Taken from Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway?, Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. Copyright ?1987-2008 Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. All rights reserved.
As you see, the inner core represents one's fearlessness ? that is the place where we have no fear. For some this is a very big place; for others it can be fairly small. As they say, individual results may vary.Surrounding this inner core is a ring of courageousness ? the place where, as Susan Jeffersa would say, we are willing to "feel the fear and do it, anyway."
As with the fearlessness core, the courageousness ring is a very big place for some, and a relatively small place for others. Too, and this is something you've likely already experienced yourselves, the actual size of these two areas will vary greatly depending on circumstance, mood, comfort level, and a variety of other variables.
Surrounding all of that ? and this was the real light bulb realization for me, as it may be for you ? is a veritable Infinity and Beyond ... of fear. Yes, for many people, anything outside of what they're already fearless - or willing to be courageous - about, is a never ending Land of Fear.
Of course, not everyone looks at it this way - although a surprising number of people really do. (And to a certain extent, you might, too, if you're being really honest with yourself.) So perhaps you can appreciate that I mean no disrespect when I say,
This is hardly a Model for Champions!What it is, though, is a pretty frightening diagram. Scary to even look at, actually, with its big, hairy, eyeball staring back like that. Remember that Far Side cartoon ? ?Warning: Objects in the mirror are closer than they appear? and all you see is one big, fat, blood-shot, monster?s eyeball?! Like that, don't you think?!
Although that may just be the fear talking!
But, when we consider that virtually everything outside of our fearlessness and courageousness zones is in the Land of Fear, it's no wonder why feelings of fear, worry, and doubt can seem so incessant. After all, Infinity and Beyond, by it's very definition, is a pretty big place!
Okay, so this said,the Next Step is to figure out how to re-frame our model so that fear is not so featured as the kingpin of the whole thing.
Stay tuned!
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a Taken from Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway?, Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. Copyright ?1987-2008 Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. All rights reserved.
Labels: Fear/Courageousness, Getting Unstuck, Life Coach - Life Coaching
posted by Barry Zweibel at 3:36 PM
2 Comments:
Juli Alvarado from Coaching for Life posted a very flattering comment about my Fear models over here. Thanks Juli!
And be sure to check out my follow-up post on this: Fear 303: A Revised Model of Fear as well.
thanks, too, to *all* of the people who've emailed me off-blog to share their stories and recognition that the Fear 101 model is 'sorta, kinda' how they have been thinking about fear, too.
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