Last week I had the opportunity to spend two days on a rustic team building retreat at Joy Outdoor Education Center
in Clarksville, Ohio, courtesy of a corporate client, Hill-Rom
, where the group learned about their Insights®
colors (courtesy of Scott Schwefel), did a high ropes course and related activities, endured gusts up to 34 mph and wind chills down to the teens (brrr!), shared emotionally-moving and personal stories deep into the night by light (and warmth) of a bonfire, slept in cabins, ate camp food, and stretched and grew in ways that were truly amazing. And that was Day One!
Day Two included a morning of coaching and facilitation, courtesy of yours truly, and an afternoon of detailed departmental planning and goal-setting, led by Phillip Saxton, president of MiTowne
Initially, I perceived, and prepared for, my role as that of catalyst: "an agent that provokes or speeds significant change or action," as Merriam Webster
might say. But as I settled into my bunk that first night it struck me that the 'change' I was there to provoke had actually already
happened. Every single person, in their own special way, had already become so much more open, courageous, real - and vulnerable
- with each other. The team knew it, liked it, and matched it, with a collective support, respect, regard, knowing, and appreciation.
That was the good news. The not-so-good news was that pretty much everything I had prepared for the following morning was now unnecessary and wrong! I no longer needed to help
them change; my job was to help them solidify
It's one thing to watch others being vulnerable; it's something entirely different to be vulnerable oneself. Yet to be truly in service
of the group I was there to coach, facilitate, and support, I knew I needed to honor and respect where the group now 'was' - and be completely present to, and enabling of, whatever needed to unfold from that point forward.
So, pre-dawn, and in keeping with the "Pushing the Limits" theme of the retreat, I decided to take what was to be the 'end' of my facilitation - an article called "Life is a ten-speed Bicycle," - and use it to start a conversational unfolding
, if you will, where I would rely on my coaching instincts and the collective wisdom of the group to reach for something essential, but as of yet, unknown.
And so, for the next 3½ hours, quite powerfully at times, we explored, realized, agreed, and fine-tuned, what else
was needed for this group of smart, capable, and caring professionals to truly coalesce into a single, unified, and unshakable, whole.
The ultimate outcome? Well that remains to be seen. To be sure, they're off to a very good start, but the team must consistently apply
the Lessons Learned, aha's realized, and courageousness experienced for the ongoing
magic to happen.
Will it be easy? Probably not. Is it doable? Definitely so. Is it likely? I actually believe it is.
As for me, I know that like everyone else, my comfort zone was significantly stretched
these last few days - and in a number of different ways! (As I reflect on what that means, I feel a contented little smile coming to my face.) So for that, I thank each and every one of you who helped make that my new reality.
Now if I can just get that campfire smoke smell out of my clothing, I'll be all set!
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