Practice 'Flexing' your Style
Even though our natural tendencies may suggest otherwise, there is no one right way to "be." Consider:
- Sometimes, people need a stern talking-to to get them going;
- Other times, they need support, encouragement, and a friendly smile more than anything else;
- And still other times, they don't need much of anything but to be left alone to do what they know they need to do!
A range of possible scenarios implies a range of responses.
So, when faced with a difficult situation at work, it is advisable to stop your 'default' reactions before they happen, and instead, purposefully choose a response that will best serve you - and those around you.
Admittedly, such a 'flexing' of style takes a bit of practice. After all, you don't have to think when you respond out of habit - you just respond! Too, there's that pesky issue of not being able to initially calibrate your flex as accurately as you'd like. Again, it takes practice.
It's like asking a power pitcher to learn to throw a slow curve ball for strikes. At first, it isn't easy - some might say it's impossible! But with practice, he learns how. And once he does, it makes his fastball – and all his pitches for that matter – much more effective.
Similarly, if you typically react one way to problems at work, it may not feel natural to react any other way. But once you learn how, flexing your style actually increases your effectiveness. Why? Because it gets people to naturally pay more attention to you, that's why.
And for a variety of reasons that could be a very good thing, yes?!