Thursday, May 12, 2005

It's a vision thing

It was time, and I was ready ... to go get my eyes checked, that is. I recognized the signs ... things looked fuzzy ... eyes felt tired ... it had been a few years.

The thing was, though, that I never cared much for the vision testing process. Which looks better ... this? Or this? This? or THIS? I mean how do I know? I looking through this crazy device with my eyes dilated and glasses off and I can't help but think that the entire reason I'm even there is because I can't see well WITH my glasses, let alone without them. And my pupils being as big as Oreo cookies isn't helping much either! But the doctor STILL wants me to tell him which looks better ... this? Or THIS?

"Hold on a minute, doc," I responded. "I'm uncomfortable with you relying on ME to tell you what my prescription should be. After all, I'm the one with the vision problem, here."

He smiled knowingly.

"Oh, I'm not relying on you," he confided. "I've already determined through my exam what your prescription needs to be. I'm just asking you 'this or THIS' to get your reaction!"


"Absoultely. Do you know much about car engines?" he asked in a seemingly random sort of way.

Well, no, not really.

"So imagine if you went to a mechanic and he relied solely on you to tell him how to repair what's wrong. That'd be absurd! So, too, with eyeglasses. I do my thing and then I simply confirm that I'm right with your answers to my questions."

What a relief! It's not up to me after all!

Now you may have already known this is how it works, but I didn't. And for years - literally decades - I've held faulty assumptions about the process. How foolish! How embarrassing! How funny! But true.

It got me thinking about how often we make assumptions without even realizing it. We ALL do it. And not just with eye care. Consider, for example, some assumptions you might be making at work without even realizing it:

  • Oh, HE is a problem employee because he's always complaining. Well, maybe, but maybe he's got some really important points to make and just having trouble communicating them to you. And maybe you're just not trying as hard as you might to understand him because you assume he's a problem employee;
  • Oh, SHE won't ever agree with my idea. Well, maybe she won't, but maybe she will. And what a shame it'd be if you never ask to find out for sure because you've already assumed she'll say no.
  • Oh, THEY just don't care. Well, maybe, they don't, but maybe you're making it too difficult for them to show you they care because you already assume that they don't.

The point to all of this is that sometimes the assumptions we make - especially the negative assumptions we make - often times keep us from seeing things as they REALLY are.

And to think, it took a vision test for me to realize that.


Tuesday, May 10, 2005

GottaGettaBlog! recommended as noteworthy life coach blog

In an article for the May 2005 edition of the International Coach Federation's COACHING WORLD newsletter, business coach, journalist and psychologist, Patsi Krakoff cited GottaGettaBlog! as a recommended life coach blog / weblog.

Thanks, Patsi!


Sunday, May 08, 2005

Happy Mothers' Day!!